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In the world of on-going battles for child custody, a new weapon has recently been brought to the arsenal of separating parents. Non-custodial parents experiencing “Parental Alienation Syndrome” (PAS) claim they are suffering psychological trauma due to the alienation from their children brought on by the other parent. Is this a legitimate disorder that can provide scientific support in a custody battle?
Though supported by many, this “disorder” has been discredited by the scientific and legal community on the whole. Here’s an interesting article that addresses the different viewpoints surrounding this issue.
What role will PAS play in the future of child custody battles despite conflicting opinions?
July 11th, 2007 at 5:00 pm
Whether a syndrome or not, parental alienation is another word for child abuse and abuse of a child’s parent. It does exist and is at epidemic proportions.
I am one that does not have to question its existemce or how insidious are its affects. Neither is my daughter of twenty one years who even now cannot in even the slightest manner of description reconnect with me after being completely cut off from me for the past fifteen years due to the behaviors of her deeply confused, narcissistic, vicious, unhealed, diabolical mother, the actions of a delusional advocacy group Justice for Children, with whom this Fink, mentioned in the article above person has been closely associated, and inept attornies, and judge too stupid to recognize vicious child abuse when it is right in front of their faces.
Parental Alienation is rampant in America today. Here is a critical question for some of the causal reasons for its existence and epidemic proportion: How can a system recognize abuse when it abuses? Our largest systems function with the same symptomologies as an addict in a progressed state of addiction. Read When Society Becomes An Addict, Anne WIlson Schaef, arper and Row, 1986, (which by the way is the same year Richard Gardner came forth with his estimations about PAS). Federal laws passed are shining examples of the government’s progressed and deeply diseased state of addiction. The Personal Responsibility and Work Opportunity and Reconciliation Act, otherwise known as the Welfare Reform Act of 1996, is one such example. This law sets up a system where the Fed pays states to turn one parent usually the father ( since 85% of custody decisions result in the mother as head of household) into a wage slave and visitor to his child. States have every interest to make this father a billfold to gain predictable kickback monies from the Fed. States do not even have to account for how it spends the monies within the state bureaucractic machinery.
One of the most insidious effects of this law is that many mothers subsequently subvert and undermine any remaining relationship a father might have with his child, and these mothers do this with impunity! No law exists to safeguard the little remaining relationship. A father must find oceans of dollars, hire lawyers, file motions, and wait to hope to coerce this mother to abide by the first set of orders. So you see the system actually teaches and indoctrinates mothers ( in this scenario) to alienate!
As an aside, groups like Justice for Children and Stop Family Violence are continuing to busily build and fuel fires of hatred of men by women (gender war) with a recent lawsuit they filed with the Interamerican Commission of Human Rights, claiming that men who are sexual abusers go for custody in the family courts and do so by claiming parental alienation by the mother. Sadly for them, their confused and delusional status prevents them from seeing clearly that if they had just left out of their equasion, gender ascriptions, presumptions that only fathers commit child sexual abuse, and that the percentage of false allegations of sexual abuse is very high, these two groups and thier affiliates might actually use thier energies and resources to advance truth and justice.
For those of you who are newer to this discussion may I suggest you avail yourselves of http://www.paawareness.com, http://www.parental-alienation-awareness.com, http://www.paskids.com, and http://www.rgardner.com.
July 13th, 2007 at 8:39 pm
Whether a syndrome or not, parental alienation is another word for child abuse and abuse of a child’s parent. It does exist and is at epidemic proportions.
I am one that does not have to question its existence or how insidious are its affects. Neither is my daughter of twenty one years who even now cannot in even the slightest manner of description reconnect with me after being completely cut off from me for the past fifteen years due to the behaviors of her deeply confused, narcissistic, vicious, unhealed, diabolical mother, the actions of a delusional advocacy group Justice for Children, with whom this Paul Fink, mentioned in the article above person has been closely associated, and inept attornies, and judge too stupid to recognize vicious child abuse when it is right in front of their faces.
Parental Alienation is rampant in America today. Here is a critical question for some of the causal reasons for its existence and epidemic proportion: How can a system recognize abuse when it abuses? Our largest systems function with the same symptomologies as an addict in a progressed state of addiction. Read When Society Becomes An Addict, Anne WIlson Schaef, Harper and Row, 1986,(which by the way is the same year Richard Gardner came forth with his estimations about PAS). Federal laws passed are shining examples of the government’s progressed and deeply diseased state of addiction. The Personal Responsibility and Work Opportunity and Reconciliation Act, otherwise known as the Welfare Reform Act of 1996, is one such example. This law sets up a system where the Fed pays states to turn one parent usually the father ( since 85% of custody decisions result in the mother as head of household) into a wage slave and visitor to his child. States have every interest to make this father a billfold to gain predictable kickback monies from the Fed. States do not even have to account for how it spends the monies within the state bureaucractic machinery. One of the most insidious effects of this law is that many mothers subsequently subvert and undermine any remaining relationship a father might have with his child, and these mothers do this with impunity! No law exists to safeguard the little remaining relationship. A father must find oceans of dollars, hire lawyers, file motions, and wait to hope to coerce this mother to abide by the first set of orders. So you see the system actually teaches and indoctrinates mothers ( in this scenario) to alienate!
As an aside, groups like Justice for Children and Stop Family Violence are continuing to busily build and fuel fires of hatred of men by women (gender war) with a recent lawsuit they filed with the Interamerican Commission of Human Rights, claiming that men who are sexual abusers go for custody in the family courts and do so by claiming parental alienation by the mother. Sadly for them, their confused and delusional status prevents them from seeing clearly that if they had just left out of their equasion, gender ascriptions, presumptions that only fathers commit child sexual abuse, and that the percentage of false allegations of sexual abuse is very high, these two groups and thier affiliates might actually use thier energies and resources to advance truth and justice.
For those of you who are newer to this discussion may I suggest you avail yourselves of http://www.paawareness.com , http://www.parental-alienation-awareness.com , http://www.paskids.com , and http://www.rgardner.com .
July 16th, 2007 at 1:01 pm
My now Ex-wife ran off with some guy she works with and took my son. I was tricked by her into a custody agreement where she has primary custody. I suffer every day the mental and emotional stress of only being alowed to see my son every other weekend. She claimed she would not have it any other way. She told me I could see him any time I wanted but of course that turned out to be a lie too. I have to pay her child support that has bankrupted me. Someone in our legislature should enact laws that punnins based on certain situations insteas of laws that punish everyone the same way.
January 2nd, 2008 at 8:02 pm
I have diligently tried to see my son for 20 months now from the divorce of my exhusband who worked very hard at smearing me to my son. I have received no help from my attorney. Do you have any suggestions for my case and of whom I can turn???